Monday, 11 December 2017

Fun Alcoholic drinks to enjoy this Holiday season

With the Holidays fast approaching  and having an Irish husband, I got inspired to write about alcohol. What kind of drinks do us gothic people enjoy? Well, I compiled a list! If I may have forgotten anything, please comment!

(1) Absinthe (AKA The Green Fairy) - Obviously, I have to start with this one as it is my favourite! Being extremely high in alcohol content and the colour green, this is my drink of choice! Drinking absinthe is not simple. You cannot just simply unscrew the bottle and pour the booze in a glass (or if you are a classy gal like me, drink straight from the bottle.) How do you drink absinthe? Well, you would need to first pour a very small amount into a glass. Afterwards, you will need a special spoon that is perforated to be placed over the glass. Take a sugar cube and then place it on the spoon. Pour water over it.  The water dissolves the sugar into the glass. This not only dilutes the drink but makes it sweeter. With the high alcohol content, you need to dilute this in order to be able to drink it easily.  It smells and tastes like licorice!



(2) Chartreuse - I was first introduced to this drink when I was a babybat in my late teens  from reading Poppy Z Brite's novel, Lost Souls. Apparently, this drink comes in two colors; green and yellow. I never personally tried the yellow kind but the green was excellent. It has a strong, spicy flavor, similar to Absinthe. The drink has been been around since 1737 made by the Carthusian monks.


(3) Mead -  It is made from fermented honey and water. Sometimes fruit or hopps are added and according to Wikipedia, it is known as the "ancestor of all fermented drinks." Here in Montreal, we can find mead at the local SAAQ (liquor store) as well as at the Jean-Talon Market. Sometimes, if I am lucky, I can find a fruit-flavored mead

 
(4) Bloody Mary - A couple of my friends will order this drink while we are out. I guess they order it due to the title and because it most probably resembles blood. Personally, this is not my drink of choice as one of it's main ingredients is tomato juice (yuck!).


(5) Sangria - One of my personal favourites. This cocktail reminds me of summertime, where one could find me in my backyard or on a terrace somewhere sharing a pitcher of this drink. In fact, this is definitely my go-to beverage during the summer months. According to Wikipedia, Sangria is from Ireland, Spain, and Portugal. It normally consists of red wine, chopped fruit, and brandy. I chose this beverage to add to my list because of the name. In french, the word "sang" means blood and well the drink is a dark red colour. I was not too far off the mark there because according to Wikipedia, the drink was named after the Spanish and Portuguese word for bleeding!


This is it. I am pretty sure there maybe beers out there that could be considered a Gothic drink but I am not a beer fan, personally. I know many people who like Apotic Rose Wine but I have not personally tried it. I know the bottles look pretty.What are your favourite drinks?



Friday, 8 December 2017

Outfit post: Family group night

Having a child with special needs, my entire family has to attend these family group nights with other parents in similar situations. I had a pretty trying week with my son and I got so, so much support and advice from other parents! It was great! I really appreciate the help, encouragement and positivity the entire group has to offer.

Obviously, I don't want to go there and freak out the other parents, especially where my child's well being is concerned. They obviously know we are not necessarily the most conformist of people but I don't want to be freak them out either.
I love the sheer top I am wearing. In fact, in the nineties, when I was a teenager, I had something very similar. Usually the sheer top would be under a shirt of some sort but I like how I combined it with a tank top underneath. I wore my shawl because it is pretty cold here.

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I'm a bat or is this a Burlesque show???

No seriously, I am sweet and we are a very *normal* family, nothing weird here!!!! Yes, I just comfirmed what my kid said about us going for walks in graveyards like it is a casual stroll in a park...

Wednesday, 6 December 2017

Outfit post:dusting off the wardrobe cobwebs

Way back when I stopped dressing goth, I purchased a tunic top or sweater shirt or whatever the hell you want to call it from a mainstream store. I never donated it to charity and it just sat in my dresser for years until very recently. I think one of the reasons why I didn't wear this top was because I was self conscious. I gained a lot of weight and I thought I looked like a sack of potatoes. The shirt itself is rather plain but sometimes those are the best kinds of clothing anyone can have because you can accessorize the shit out of it!

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Post Punk

And just for fun, here it is from 2012! If I remember correctly, I came back to Goth in 2011 although I never really stopped listening to the music so I think this was about a year or so I started dressing Goth again. Despite dressing "normal" there were always some Goth undertones present.



Monday, 4 December 2017

Outfit post: Winter Blue

I purchased this coat and spider brooch (hard to tell from the photos) from Rosegal.com and it was really cheap. In fact, I made several purchases off this site recently. This is NOT a sponsored post but I wanted to do a review.

When ordering from Rosegal, the items are not shipped all at the same time. They came in separate parcels. The items arrived in a very reasonable time frame and they were really well packaged.

I was a little disappointed when I received this coat. I thought it would be a warm winter coat. It is quite thin. I guess you get what you pay for, eh? Fortunately, I ordered a size larger and I am happy I did because I can wear a thick sweater under this coat. I think this coat would not be warm enough for a Canadian winter. In fact, depending on how cold it is outside, I may only wear it to get into a warm car or when it is mild here. For me, in the winter, mild usually means from anything from -5 celcius and upwards.

I don't regret the purchase. It is a very cute coat and like anything else I ordered off this site, the items do match the pictures.



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PS: The inspiration for this outfit post was brought to you by Foghorn Lonesome!

Wednesday, 29 November 2017

Alternative Blogger Of The Month: App'y Talk




I know that I originally wanted to feature new bloggers and this guy has been blogging since 2012 but he is one of the few bloggers I know that have stuck around. While I do have one or two bloggers in mind for future posts, I am running out of people to feature here so please message me if you want me!

I wanted to feature Appy because he has a great sense of humour, a lot of his posts are tongue in cheek. He often writes about concerts and local events that he attended and for someone like me, who cannot really travel abroad for the time being, it is nice to read about the happenings over on the other side of the pond (I think he is British) and he is a pretty cool guy!

Appy's first post, which is from January 12,2012 is titled (and I snorted after reading it) "1st Edition March 2007 Dog Poo" where well, he posts about dog poo! You see, Appy is also a gardener and he wrote about the importance of cleaning up after your dog's mess and to please use biodegradable bags.

Please go show Appy some love! 


Monday, 27 November 2017

Outfit post: parent meeting

Once a week, I go to this parent meeting. It is like a support group for parents. All our kids have special needs in some shape or form.I actually really like this group because all of us have similar stories/hardships when it comes to parenting a child with special needs. Being a Goth mom and having a kid with special needs has it own set of challenges for me as well. Like always, I do not wish to go into specifics about my kid for his sake but I do want to reach out to any parents who are in my shoes: don't give up.Please remember, it is nothing you did or didn't do as a parent. You are your child's best advocate and don't be shy to speak up or ask for help!

Going to this parenting group is nice because I don't feel like an outcast, everything is kept confidential but we all share experiences and learn tricks on what we can do as parents to help our kids. It's working too!

I don't necessarily want to go to these meetings in full club wear but I don't necessarily want to tone down either. I apologize for the quality of these photos:





...and yes, it was filled to the top with coffee. I had a migraine that day and needed it to get through the meeting. I am always super mom when I am well caffeinated!

Wednesday, 22 November 2017

Bad Ass Baking Bitch, my life as a stay-at-home mom

As most as you have probably read, I quit my job recently. It was not an easy decision for me. I worked at the same place for six years, made numerous friends who got to see my son Philip grow up (hell, some of them have pictures of him at their workstation) and I changed a lot there myself.

Whether you quit or get fired from a job, it often feels like a breakup. I know it sounds weird, I mean for me personally, I didn't really have an emotional attachment to my job or anything but I was there for a while.It feels weird, as if something is missing. I don't think I really miss my old job itself but I miss my friends and the routine. I always had a job and being at home all the time like this is...odd. I think it will take some time for me to get used to the new routine.

The time home has been doing me good. Surprisingly, I am very busy! I clean, I cook and I take care of things. There is always something to do! My kid had an optometrist appointment yesterday. It was nice not to have to rush around the appointment because I had a job to get back to. In fact, we went shopping for Christmas decorations afterwards! We even took public transportation instead of my car!

One of the many reasons why I quit my job was because I pulled Philip out of his regular school. He was miserable over there and I was tired of feeling besieged by them. You can read more about it in this post here. It seems that since my kid didn't fit into this perfect little box, he was politely ushered out.Things are MUCH, MUCH better in the new school and no pressure to medicate! 

Since I wanted him adjusted to a new school, I did not feel comfortable having him put in the daycare program there just yet. Not after the BS he had to deal with at the other school the previous years. Seriously, it did a number on him! Now, he takes the school bus with his new friend up the street and he comes home everyday by bus too. He has time after school to play Minecraft, I am not rushed to make supper and he loves the free time after we do homework! He never had free time like that before!

I had many other reasons why I quit my job. I had many triggers for having those panic attacks but knowing that my kid is happy obviously helped calm my anxiety down. Its still there but nowhere as bad as it was!

In fact, last week, we had a parent meeting and I brought snacks. I baked cookies. I always wanted to do that but never had the time. Now I do and they were a big hit. It is nice to do those things. Surprisingly, I never thought being a stay at home mom was a lot of work but it is! I love it. I love that I have extra time with my kid, I have him with me on ped days as well as two full weeks at Christmas. I am actually looking forward for Christmas this year because I have my baby bat all to myself. In the past, I had to work in-between and always felt guilty for sending him off to my Mom's. I am sure this sentiment will change by the time the kid goes back to school after Christmas break! I also have him with me all summer. I can finally teach him how to ride a bike and take him to the pool! It was so hard to do that on the weekends! I have so much to look forward to!

So yes, I wanted to write something personal today. Life is going good and I wanted to share. ...and in case anyone is wondering, yes, there are days I wear sweat pants and a Star Wars t-shirt but I still mostly dress Goth as fuck when I am home, too! I like to think I am a bad ass mom! Seriously, the fact that I tell people "oh and I bake cookies and shit" is only testament to the fact!


Monday, 20 November 2017

Talk of a Crow remake

It never fails, just when you think they have given up, you hear more mumblings of The Crow remake. Are they really going to do it this time or will it fall through the cracks again?

I know a lot of people feel that Brandon Lee cannot be replaced. To a certain degree, I can understand the sentiment and to a certain extent, I can agree but I can also see the other side of the fence too.While I am personally not a fan of remakes, in this particular case, I would like to see the actual movie before I comment on it. This is one remake that I am interested in seeing because like many others, I do have a personal, emotional attachment to this movie. It was one of the many gateways into Goth for me. This movie came out when I was a teenager! I know Hollywood should leave original movies alone and actually come up with new content but I do think it would be nice to see this remake for nostalgia sake.

Image source: IMBD

Apparently the actor, Jason Momoa was chosen for the role as Eric Draven. If my memory serves me well,as I am glancing at the location of my graphic novel as I write this, Eric Draven was pretty built in the comics and did not have Brandon Lee's slender frame at all.

image taken from here

Like many others, I have seen Jason Momoa as Khal Drogo in Game Of Thrones, I really do think he would be good for the role. Now there is talk that Nick Cave will be writing the script (apparently this was in the works since 2010 but I only found out recently) and to add another positive point to the remake, the creator, James O'Barr signed on as creative consultant.

 All in all, in my opinion, nothing can beat the first movie but by keeping all these facts in mind, I am excited to see the remake and lets be honest here, I am also looking forward to seeing Jason Momoa on screen playing his guitar without a shirt on! I also really hope that there would be a post punk soundtrack to accompany the movie as well but we shall see.


Wednesday, 15 November 2017

Monthly Music Spotlight: Trisomie 21

Most of my music tastes derives from the eighties. I really do think I was born in the wrong decade because during the eighties, I was a kid in diapers! As a result, it comes as no surprise that I would like to feature an 80's French coldwave band called Trisomie 21!

Trisomie 21 was formed in 1980 by two brothers called Philippe and Hervé Lomprez. The band name in English is Trisomy 21 (aka Down Syndrome)

Listening to this band brings back some fond memories of my babybat days and I would like to regale you on another story of what it was like back then for me. I think the year was 1997 or 1998 and I was about 17 years old, perhaps 18. Growing up in Montreal was great because we have so much culture and the local goth scene back then was thriving. We were very fortunate to have a radio show called "Les Mouches Noires" (The Black Flies to translate. Trust me, it sounds MUCH cooler in French!) that aired every Tuesday night. I remember staying up to listen to the program. This is right around the time people were only beginning to get the Internet in their homes and a radio program featuring music popular in the goth scene was the way to go! I was poor, didn't own a computer (most households didn't really own one back then) and there was no way in hell my mother would allow me to tie up her phone line (remember dial up?) to go on the Internet. Back in my adolescence, the radio show was a perfect source of information for baby bats like me! The DJ would introduce me to new Goth bands and I got to expand my knowledge on the subculture. This was my only way to discover new music aside from going to clubs and friends talking about it.
  
People would also be able to call in the show with requests and I remember getting all excited whenever a crush or a friend would dedicate a song to me! I used to own a cassette player (remember those?) and would record the songs off of the radio. I learned excellent timing skills that way because it was a real disappointment if I should ever miss the first few seconds of a song. It was a real treat whenever I managed to tape a special song request that was made out to myself or a friend of mine. I remember waking my parents up by shouting out in excitement and then getting yelled at for "making an ass of myself in the middle of the night" whenever a friend or crush would make a request for me. In fact, I wish I still had my cassette collection because I am pretty sure I recorded my mom giving me shit for waking her up!

I remember being enamoured with Trisomie 21's song "La Fête Triste"  that played on this radio program, which was also my introduction to the band. So tonight, I impart you with this song.  I hope you feel just as enamoured with it as I did those many moons ago and hope you all find some form of nostalgic memories of it from your youth as I just did. Enjoy!







Monday, 13 November 2017

Why I dislike (some, not all) other parents


Unsolicited advice and the expectation to follow through - Yes, this is my first child. Yes, I have no frigging clue what I am doing. I just wing it and hope for the best! The fact that he is alive and happy today means I am doing something right. I am guilty of this too, to a certain extent but I always tell the person that I am offering my two cents - ultimately, the decision is up to the parents. What pisses me off is when someone gives me their advice, insist I take it (although they know nothing about my family) and get angry when I don't. There is a fine line between a well-meaning person to someone trying to interfere with your personal family life! Usually this type of parent goes hand in hand with...

The my kid is better than your kid pissing contest. Ugh! Eye roll!
It started after I had my kid.The sancti-mommies came out from under their rock. I bottle-fed, I was shamed. I didn't co sleep, I was made to feel like I abandoned my kid. No matter what I did or didn't do, there was an annoying sancti-mommy there telling me how I am doing it wrong, how their precious angel hit (insert age appropriate milestone here) early. It was all thanks to their expert parenting and I need to do what they are doing.

That judgmental stare - Perhaps it is me but I know most parents judge. Hell, I have done it before I had a kid and thought I knew everything! Karma came around and bit me in the ass because boy, did I ever learn my lesson! I stopped doing that! There was this other Mom in my kid's school who used to give me dirty looks (I started calling her good old stink eye) and then gossip about me to other parents. 

This is my all time favourite: Breast vs bottle debate. While I admit, I have encountered a lot of fanaticism on the whole pro breastfeeding side, I also encountered a lot of bitterness (most of it my own) over bottle feeding. Perhaps it is because my son is going on eight years old and I no longer need to worry about such issues. This sometimes goes hand in hand with my kid is better than your kid type of parent. Some people bottle feed because low milk supply does happen despite what your breastfeeding bible tells you. Sometimes, fed is better. 


Being openly involved in a subculture and often wearing something that is outside the mainstream, I get stares and rude remarks. One woman wouldn't let her daughter play with my son and actually did the sign of the crucifix. Yes, because my blonde haired kid wearing brightly coloured clothes he chose to wear that morning is the spawn of Satan. Don't let those blue eyes and that cherub like appearance deceive you, he will devour your precious little angel's soul and spit out her bones!

*Insert tongue in cheek*

My unsolicited advice to any parent out there and no don't worry, I will never insist that you take it: do what you think is best for your family and enjoy the moments you have with your children. They do grow very fast and I always knew when my son was a baby that in 5 years, certain things that seemed important at that time wouldn't matter. I enjoyed his babyhood and I am glad I did. I didn't pay attention to what everyone else was doing. I did what I thought was best and consulted my pediatrician for advice. I am so blessed to have such a sweet, wonderful little boy. Very recently, I made a very hard decision to either continue being a working mom or be a stay at home one for a while. I chose to stay at home. I regretted not staying home sooner and blamed myself for some of the difficulties my son is having. I know now that it was never my fault. I did what I thought was best and I always have his best interest at heart. I learned that no matter the choice a parent makes, we make them out of love, out of the best interest for our child and family's well-being.So please do what is right for YOU and YOUR family and fuck what anyone else has to say.


Friday, 10 November 2017

Outfit post: Bringing out my inner Wednesday Addams

I always wanted a Wednesday Addams inspired dress but I never had that sort of cash to get one. When I saw this dress for a whopping $24.71 (Canadian funds) on the Shein website, I had to buy.... Come to Mama! MY PRECIOUSSSSSS!!!!!

.... And because I am super awesome, here is the link for the dress on the site. This is NOT a sponsored post. I just really frigging love the dress. Happy shopping!!!! http://www.shein.com/Black-Contrast-Collar-And-Cuff-Shirt-Dress-p-323366-cat-1727.html

Peter pan collarWednesday Addams dress


Wednesday, 8 November 2017

Outfit post:Just A Phase




Today was an odd day. I went over to my Mom's house to help her with a few things and wrap some Christmas presents. Yeah, don't ask. Working the previous years in a retail orientated business, I did everything last minute because I had no time. This year, I want to actually enjoy the Holidays so I got a head start. Don't worry, I didn't start until AFTER Halloween, I am not THAT psycho (okay November 1st but still!) and I have a nosy kid. I want to keep the whole Santa thing alive for one more year so I hide my stash at my Mom's. He is catching on! Last year, he told me and I quote:"Some kids think that the parents buy the gifts and that there's no such thing as Santa. I am not a stupid kid. I am smart. If you were buying the gifts, I would know where you would hide them. I would find them!" Meanwhile, I am thinking to myself "Yeah,right you little bugger!"

Our old neighbor also just dropped by to say hello. This woman used to live next door from my Mom's and was a real pain in the ass! Seriously, she was a busy body!She once came over to give me shit because she saw my undergarments on the clothes line. According to her, I was "too young to be wearing red lace bras!" I remember my response at that time:"At least I wear one!" because I don't think she ever did! Ha! She also used to look at me, shake her head in disapproval and comment "One day, you won't dress like that. I can't wait to see you grow out of that phase!"

Well, today she asked me how old I was. After I told her my age, she remarked that I have not changed or aged at all since I was still living at home, that I still dress the same and still dye my hair black. My response after thanking her because I like to think she was complimenting me: "Guess, it wasn't a phase after all!" My teen-aged self would have been proud! My Mom snorted and had to stifle her laughter.

This dress was purchased a while back from Mary Mourning's store, Autumn Moon Enchantments. I had to actually have it taken in a little thanks to the weight loss!

The photos were cropped since my kid was in the shot (he was playing on his tablet) and the lack of boots but the last one, I left un-cropped. I was telling the dog to go to her bed in order to stop her from photo bombing me! I thought it was funny!




Proof that she didn't stay in her bed for very long:

Monday, 6 November 2017

A what is going on in my life post

I thought I would give you all an update on my personal life because I wrote about having anxiety and I am pretty sure that most of you probably know by now that my doctor put me on medical leave from my job because of it. I was having panic attacks and needed time to rest and get my affairs in order. After spending almost 6 weeks on medical leave, my husband and I decided that it would be best for us as a family that I stay home for a while. That's right, I am stay at home Mom now! I quit my job! It wasn't an easy decision but sometimes, in life, the hardest decisions are the best ones.  For the record, I know I can write about this openly as some coworkers contacted me to keep in touch.

My son Philip has benefited immensely from this so far. Jay can relax a little more on the weekends because we are not running around doing cleaning/laundry/groceries and everything else.This means more quality family time. This means more time with Philip after school vs playing beat the clock to get homework and supper ready on time. I don't want to go into specifics with my son but his last two years at school were not easy, me being at home plays a huge part towards helping him.

Staying at home not only means doing house cleaning, it means being available should the school call because Philip is sick. It means no longer having to debate who's turn it is or who's available to go get him. You have no idea the numerous times I felt guilty because I was unable to leave my work or take a personal day to take care of Philip. Jay is great with him but a sick child doesn't always want their dad, a sick child wants their mom. It was my case with Philip and that really hurt me that I wasn't able to be there for him.


Staying at home also means learning new things. For example: I always wanted to learn how to cook pumpkin and very recently, I did just that! I have also been making more meals from scratch, including homemade chicken stock and soup! Staying at home means getting my produce from the vegetable stand/farmer's market (because I have time!) and no longer from the grocery store! Not only was I able to save money on the food budget by shopping this way, we are eating better. Despite having severely cut down on takeout/restaurants last year in order to reach my weight loss goals, we very rarely eat out anymore. Staying at home also means less already prepared, pre-packaged food that you throw in the oven. I have more time to cook and this has also helped with our food budget. We still splurge on frozen pizza (even order in at times) and chicken nuggets but it is less often than we used to.

Speaking of finances, things are going to be tight for a while but since we don't have a mortgage, we will be moving to a smaller place (re:less rent) over the summer. We planned on moving anyways. Once I calculated costs associated with me being a working parent, for example, child care services for when he is out of school. eating at a restaurant or ordering in, and various other expenses, the loss of income wasn't as much as I originally thought it would be. It just makes more sense for me to stay home!

By speaking with other moms, I realized that many of us, myself included, put so much pressure on ourselves to be all and do all but we sometimes can't do that. This was a great lesson for me and I am so lucky that I have the luxury to be a stay at home mom now. It was a very humbling experience because it means being financially reliant on my husband, something I am not used to. I also took pride in being able to work and I had to re-evaluate my priorities. Whether you are a stay at home mom or working mom both has it's pros and cons but for my family dynamics, my personal mental health issues and especially with having a child with special needs, at this moment, being a stay at home mom is what's best for us.


Friday, 3 November 2017

Story time: Clubbing in the nineties as a baby bat.

Earlier today, I came across an article that was written by The Blogging Goth titled Abuse, Assault, and the Goth Scene. If you have not done so already, please read his article because I will not regurgitate everything he so eloquently wrote but would like to add my two cents:

I think it is important for us, as members of the Goth community to have discussions about sexual harassment. As much as I would like to think that sexual harassment does not happen in the Goth scene, let's be realistic here, it can. This is something I wish I could put my head in the sand about but out of respect towards any victims of sexual assault, I will not. After all, isn't this one of the MANY reasons why victims don't come forward?

Now, I would like to talk about MY local Goth community here in Montreal and MY experiences within it growing up. Now, that I am much older and with my health issues, I unfortunately do not venture out as much as I would like. Hopefully, this will change soon. I can comment about the Goth scene here in nineties when I was a baby bat myself because I obviously went out more when I was younger.

I started clubbing REALLY young. I like to think that it was thanks to some of my friends who were much, much older than I was who kinda let me in the clubs before I turned the legal age (which is 18 here)

Now this is important because at that age, I was VERY naive. I was too trusting. I did all sorts of things. I used to take all sorts of drugs (I am not proud of this) and I am being BRUTALLY honest here. Many times, I had no frigging clue where I was. I remember falling down on the dance floor because I started bad tripping on PCP. I am by no means implying I deserved to have anything happen to me, don't be silly, NO ONE deserves that but let's call a spade a spade here; I was probably an easy target because I was really fucking out of it at that time. Also, it can happen to anyone, not just to people being inebriated, I would like to point that out too just in case.

I was a reckless youth.  Not only did my older, much more mature Elder Goth friends helped get me off the drugs, encouraged me to finish high school, they looked out for me. Yes, I deserved to be kicked out of clubs for my behaviour. Instead, my best friend brought me back to her place until the drugs wore off.I like to think it is thanks to these people I am the less stupid but more sober person I am today.

 I never felt unsafe at a Goth club. I got to know the bouncers. Hell, one of them used to make sure my best friend and I got back to her place safely, and he even went out of his way to drive us home!

Fast forward to a few years later. I toned down for my job and went out for a few drinks with some of my female non-Goth coworkers after work on a Friday. We were on Crescent street (which some of us refer to as "The Meat Market") Not only do these places play HORRIBLE music, as the evening went on and the place started to get crowded, you have no idea how many times I had my ass grabbed. This confused me because shit like this never happened to me at a Goth club.The overall impression I had was that men were simply there to get laid. These men, sometimes twice my age, would surround us and stare at us to the point we felt awkward. You knew they were sizing you up and we felt like a piece of meat. Even while I was working, I would sometimes frequent a Goth club and I never made to feel like a piece of meat, in fact, my overall impression is that sort of behaviour is frowned upon at Goth clubs. I am quite certain the organizers of these events try their hardest to make sure that everyone is safe.


This is why it is important for us to look out for one and other. The Goth scene over here is a lot smaller than what it used to be. Looking back, when we did have weekly goth nights, I was safe. We are smaller than ever and it is much easier to look out for one and other these days.

I am so grateful for the people who looked out for me. I try to keep an eye on my friends too because you never know .Despite feeling safe during a Goth night, one of the many reasons why I am afraid to go out (without my husband) is the fear of coming home by myself.

I think it is important that we share our experiences with each other and we need to please look out for one and other. Be safe.

Wednesday, 1 November 2017

Halloween fun 2017

This year, Halloween was less stressful for me considering I am home on medical leave. Every time Halloween was on a weekday, I was pretty stressed out. Last year, I left work early to be able to take my kid trick or treating on time and it appeared everyone had the same idea; I was stuck in horrendous traffic! It was sort of a tradition to have Mcdonald's for supper in order to save time and afterwards, we would rush back home to go trick or treating. This year, we had a home cooked meal and we didn't play beat the clock!

The weather wasn't very nice, though. It was cold, damp, and there were some light showers. My son got tons of candy so it was all good. Living in Canada, we are used to weather like this. It builds character and makes memories!

What I really like about the city of Montreal is there were firetrucks that would stop in the middle of the street to hand out candy. Last year, we were never able to get to fire truck before it drove away but we were able to this year!

Anyways, Philip was happy to meet some of the local firemen. One firetruck in particular had all the lights on and had the original Ghostbuster's theme song blaring on loop. I thought that was really cool and brought back some fond, childhood memories. Who are you gonna call???

I wore my favourite coat. My dog Storm wore her Totoro costume that was purchased for her by my niece. We had many people stop us to admire our dog as well as my "costume." Apparently I was "la belle sorcière" - the beautiful witch. I thanked the people politely. I was amused. If only they knew that I wear this coat ALL THE TIME!

All in all, it was a wonderful night. Philip was generous with his Halloween candy, which is a bonus.  Philip doesn't like wearing makeup or masks (sensory issues) but dressed as Death. He wore the same costume last year. This was his choice. I was proud! To this day, he believes that Halloween is supposed to be scary. He also wanted the costume so he could have skeleton hands! Again, that also made me proud. Below are some pictures of our costumes and my coat. The dog took up residence in the cat's scratching post. She sleeps there and even puts some of her toys in there too.  How was YOUR Halloween???

Necessary Evil coatNecessary Evil coat


My Neighbor Totoro

My Neighbor TotoroMy Neighbor Totoro


Monday, 30 October 2017

Halloween pet peeves



I am going to most probably sound elitist here so bare with me. The point of this post is not to really offend anyone. I just want to express my not-so-positive point of view when it comes to normal folk dressing goth for Halloween.

Tomorrow is Halloween. This is my favourite holiday and I am sure that it is for the majority of us. I love this time of the year. Fall, doesn't just mean my favourite holiday but it also means cooler temperatures, my pretty corseted fall coat, the foliage and pumpkin spice everything. This is also the time of the year where I get the most annoyed too.

Like the majority of us, I often take my personal finances into question when it comes to purchasing alternative clothing. Don't get me wrong. I try to thrift shop, I try to get creative with outfits that can be purchased in mainstream stores, I bargain hunt online and I save up for a cherished, most desired piece of clothing. I often put a lot of time, energy, and effort into my look. With all that, it just rots my socks when people compliment me on my "Halloween costume." I used to laugh it off , smile and go about my way. Sometimes I would politely tell these people that "no, it is not a costume. I dress like this everyday" Perhaps there is a lot going on with my personal life but this year in particular, it took me a herculean effort to not get snarky with these people.

Another pet peeve: People buying cheap Goth Halloween costumes, wear bad makeup and then boasting about how they dress just like me! Ugh no, sweetheart. This sometimes amuses me. I sometimes laugh because their version of Goth is very different than ours. If it makes them happy. When I was a kid, back in the eighties, I was a punk on Halloween. I thought I was so cool. I wonder how the punks thought about this back then?

Lastly, I love scary costumes. Every year, I always scoff at the female costumes (or lack thereof) because since when did Halloween become sexy? I know this is not a new trend and if women are comfortable dressing that way, more power to them but personally, I roll my eyes. This is just me.


I guess perhaps I am a little overprotective this time of the year or perhaps it is my old age coming out. Either way, I am excited for tomorrow! Happy Halloween, folks!

If you do plan on taking part of Halloween festivities, please be responsible.


Wednesday, 25 October 2017

Alternative Blogger Of The Month: The Canadian Vampire Queen




Since I started showcasing fellow blogger's over here on my blog, I wanted to write about one of my favourite authors, Nancy Kilpatrick. She has her own blog and well, I admit, I am biased here since I do like her literary work and I have also been super fortunate to have met this lady in person. She is super cool, by the way! It comes as no surprise that I am so happy to see her blogging again so now I can write about her!

For those of you unaware, Nancy Kilpatrick wrote several novels and short stories. Most of us know her as the writer behind The Goth Bible. Her latest novel, which is book 2 of the Thrones Of Blood series, is called Sacrifice Of The Hybrid Princess.

Nancy began blogging in January of this year. Her first post was sort of an introductory one and she was promoting Revenge Of The Vampir King, which is the first Thrones Of Blood book.

Her latest post, is a final installment of her travel tips. Nancy loves to travel and often writes about her adventures on Facebook. Should I ever have the means to travel abroad one day,I am sure her tips would come in handy!

Please show this awesome lady some love and check out her blog. Nancy is an amazing writer and I thoroughly enjoy reading her posts.

https://nancykilpatrickwriter.blogspot.ca


Monday, 23 October 2017

A thank you present

I was very pleasantly surprised to see a package come in from one of my readers! How thoughtful!So thank you very much!


Friday, 20 October 2017

It came from The Mall

Well...I have a confession to make...I am a mall Goth because I bought this shirt at The Mall! Ahhhh!!!!

A lot of 60-70's fashion seem to hit the mainstream this year. This means that bell-sleeves are in! I had a top very similar to this one back in the nineties when I was a kid. I wore it until it became a rag so when I saw this one in the store, I snatched it up. There were many different colours available to choose from but naturally, I chose black! I love that it was on sale too! If I remember correctly, I paid a whole whopping $10 for it!

I know many of us often scoff when items that we like to wear are offered in the mainstream. I used to scoff at that idea too but when you are on a budget, it is nice to have some items fill your closet. Now that this top is "in"  there is a good chance one would be able to get away with wearing it in an office! I think in situations like these, it is best to take advantage since it will go out of fashion soon (you can most probably find it in a thrift in a couple of months) and the normies will move on but you, my friend, will have the clothes when no one else is wearing it and your mall Goth secret will be safe!




Goth shirt, bell sleaves, strega

There's no Hot Topic where I am from, life is so hard!!!! Woe is me!!!


Wednesday, 18 October 2017

Monthly Music Spotlight: The Vampire Beach Babes

Logo taken from vampirebeachbabes.com
My husband introduced me to this band! I think it was even before we started dating and we were just friends. He came over to my house and brought over a compilation CD for us to listen to. The song "Gothic Surf-A-Rama" came on at the end of the CD and I was hooked! After doing some research on this band, I discovered they are fellow Canadians from Toronto, Ontario. Hey, this is something to be proud of! Aside from Skinny Puppy and Rhea's Obsession there are not many bands from Canada that I enjoy.

On behalf of Canada, I sincerely apologize for unleashing Celine Dion and Justin Bieber to the world! I hang my head in shame! For shame, I tell you, for shame!  It is nice that I can say there is some music I enjoy that are Canadian and that I don't want to hurl whenever I listen to them. Since Dion and Arcade Fire are local, I am constantly hearing their shit everywhere I go. I don't mind Arcade Fire so much but if I hear another rendition of "My Heart Will Go On", I am going to go postal!

 If you are into the Gothabilly/surf style type of music, this would probably be a go-to band to listen to. I like to tell people that this is the Beach Boys gone goth. Enjoy!

Monday, 16 October 2017

Shadows of the Imp

Thanks to my weight loss, my self confidence has increased. Not only did I get an excuse to buy some new outfits, I also am learning new ways to wear old items.Very recently, I gained the self confidence to wear a t-shirt as a long dress (usually with Leggings or tight pants) and was quite pleased.

The pic below was my source for inspiration, in fact, I used to always envy the alternative models for being able to pull off this look because I personally felt like this didn't suit me in the past:
This is where I got the image


I felt more confident pulling this off recently when I tried on my Depeche Mode t-shirt I got at the concert. There are times, I love "short girl problems!" and this is one of those times! The shirt fits me well and covers enough where my backside isn't too exposed!

Taken before the black hair!!! Overly priced concert t-shirt for the win! Go me!!!

I am wearing a Headless Horseman t-shirt that I am happy I get to keep because my son picked it out for me! The shirt is a size too big and I am glad I found a nice way to wear it!



Goth, alt model
Yes, my hair is wet in these photos, haha!!!



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