Monday, 31 July 2017

Hair colours

 Red can be a tough color to keep in your hair and since I last dyed my hair 4 weeks ago, the colour started to fade. I was OK with this but my hair grows really fast. My roots were very visible and this was bothering me. I didn't want to dye my hair again but I did buy Manic Panic to cover my roots and refresh my hair. I feel this is less harsh than an actual hair dye. Depending on how well the Manic Panic holds, I may or may not re-do my hair with a harsher dye in a couple of weeks because I really like this colour!  The Manic Panic colour I used was called "Fushia Shock". The dye itself looks a dark pink but since I didn't bleach my hair before applying it, my hair turned a really nice dark purple colour instead.

Original red dye. Taken with my bat-dog Storm.
The after results of the Manic Panic . This time, there's no dog but Thing decided to rest on my shoulder!

Friday, 28 July 2017

Stuff and things

Well dear readers, I was going to pull out a post from my old blog and put it here today but I got inspired to write some new content instead!

My inspiration came from many places:

One of them was from a  fellow blogger  called Mutant Stomp Friends. She wrote about the death of the alternative blogging scene. It got me thinking. In a way, yes, the blogging community is dying. There are far less Goth bloggers out there. People tend to like more the super filtered images and less actual articles. I guess we live in a society of instant gratification. We want to see the pretty pictures (I too am guilty of this) but I am also old fashioned. I prefer books to Kindles. I prefer the written word over videos. I love to read and write so this is my preferred medium. I am one of those annoying people that complain about how the book was better than the movie!  Having recently started a new blog, with a new URL, I noticed that there are less bloggers out there. I don't think this form of media is completely dead but I think videos/Pinterest/Instagram are the new novelties right now. There's pretty little Goths everywhere, it's fluff, and I have to admit, watching their videos makes me want to focus more on my aesthetic. It's not all that bad. It motivates me to "up" it more.

Speaking of aesthetics, I am in a style rut right now due to my weight loss. I am in the process of buying smaller clothes, taking in my old ones to better fit my body and I am more self confident with showing more skin! I am tired of hiding under clothes. It is a very exciting time for me to be blogging because of this. In addition, I felt like my old blog, while originally had amazing content about being Goth/coming back to Goth in the beginning, it was turning into a Mommy blog. I am a mom. I am proud to be one but I don't want to be a mommy blogger.

I recently did a Youtube video. The first one I ever did was originally for my old blog a couple of years ago but I never published it. It was a disaster! It's a really funny story that I would like to share with you because this is a classic "Sylvie-ism" I really am a goof ball!

You see, what happened,  I got these sort of molds to make eggs into a shape of a skull. I wanted to film myself cooking eggs while using them because it's so frigging cool! I used my laptop to do this because I thought it would be easier than a selfie stick or harassing my husband to film me. The smart thing would have been to ask the husband but I am stubborn and independent. This was my downfall.

Image taken off of

My old laptop doubled as a tablet and I mistakenly put my screen upside down. The whole video was of me going from right side up to upside down. The sound quality was incredibly shitty. I tried to edit as much as I could but I am no professional! I decided to delete the video entirely. I kind of regret it because I could have used clips as a blooper video later on. Oh well. C'est la vie!

I do not plan on making vids regularly but I had so much fun making my last one that making a few more is a possibility but expect more written content. This is my preferred medium. I like versatility. I like fashion, I like discussions about the Goth subculture, I like sharing my experiences (be it back when I was growing up to current) and want to share some of my music tastes. I may occasionally write about health and fitness too since this too has become part of my lifestyle. I don't want to fit into a mold because those who know me really well, know I am not that sort of person. I like diversity and while I may dress all in black, I like many things that go bump in the night, I like a lot of colour and variety in my life too. I want this blog reflect that, I want versatility, I don't mainly want to be a fashion blogger or a mommy blogger or a fitness blogger. I hate putting anyone in a category. So yes, there will be (minimal) videos and there will be fluff too but expect other content as well. Please don't box me in, I sleep in an open coffin at night...sometimes even upside down!

Wednesday, 26 July 2017

I'm on the Interwebz!

Well folks, one of my goals for this blog was to add videos. I tried making a video a long time ago of but it was a disaster. I don't really have an excellent camera (I use my phone) but meh, I had a lot of fun making this video that I may just make more in the future.

So here you go. Enjoy. I am a Youtube virgin, please be kind to me :)

Monday, 24 July 2017

Advice I wish I received when I was a Baby Bat

***Taken from my old blog***

The inspiration for this post is what kind of advice I would give to my baby bat self.  What would future Syl tell little baby bat Syl? I am not telling anyone how to be Goth, I simply just want to share some embarrassing stories from my younger years when I was experimenting with the style. Remember, this is before the Internet and we didn’t have the Online resources that we have today! Well here it goes:

First and foremost, do not and I repeat, do not use Halloween makeup. I remember buying white foundation from the Dollar store because I wanted to look dead. It is cheap (well it came from the Dollar Store, big surprise there!), it clogs pores and I ended up looking like a mime instead of a vampire!

It is fine to experiment with makeup but do so in the privacy of your own home. There were many times it looked like I fell into a makeup box and I went out in public that way!

Woolen capes can look nice but do not over do it. Also, they should be worn in the winter, not in the middle of a summer heatwave!

DO NOT SHAVE YOUR EYEBROWS! - I thought it looked cool except the shaved brow and re-penciled look never looked right on me. I tried penciling them by using various techniques but it never worked for me. I had more experienced friends (both goth and non) to help me and I just ended up looking ridiculous. This is for me, really. If you want to do it, go right ahead but I do advise to partially shave them off and then pencil them in first before taking the first plunge! I didn’t do this! This way. if you don't like the look, you won't have to wait for them to grow back like I did! Perhaps my makeup skills at that time needed some tuning but I have never attempted this move again. I never will.

Thrift stores were and still are my best friend.

Learn to sew better because many times a lace trim I added easily came undone.

Crow makeup, unless you plan on dressing like Eric Draven for Halloween, it has been overdone. Do not go out in public. To anyone else, if this makes you happy, then do so but please note, there many within the subculture that kind of frown upon that. Don't get me wrong, I love the Crow. I read the comics and own all the movies and seen them many, many times. In fact, the Crow was one of the first links I had towards the subculture. It holds a special place in my heart and maybe this is why it has been overdone?

Swirly eyeliner is cute but do it properly. Sometimes less is more.

Do not attempt to bleach black out of your hair the night before an important event. Make sure you have ample time to run to the store to buy more bleach or a hairdresser to fix it. Trust me. I did not do it properly either. My roots went white, the rest went yellow, the ends went a bright red that darkened to black. It looked like a science experiment gone wrong. My godfather wanted me to go blonde for my high school graduation photos that was scheduled for the next day and offered to pay me a generous amount of money to do it. Being a teenager, I thought about all the CDs/tapes and clothing that I could buy. I did not even consider that this could go wrong. Being the stereotypical night owl, I did this at 10:00pm on a weeknight when all the stores were closed. I was up Shit’s creek without a paddle because I obviously didn’t have time to fix it. It gets better: The company who did the photos from my school did not offer retakes! My dad bought the photos of me wearing the graduation cap but having a sense of humour, bought a couple, including a huge photo (11x17) without the cap as a reminder to never, ever attempt a stunt like that again.

If I wear a lock around my neck à la Sid Vicious style, DO NOT lose the key. My father was not too impressed when he had to get tools from his workshop to remove it. We were late for a funeral. I could have changed clothing but I think he was also looking for an excuse to remove it!

For the younger kids reading this: Don't worry, the baby bat phase will end. Perhaps you will "grow out of it" as some of our folks think or you may not. You could be like me and dropped out for a while and come back. Either way, with time and practice, you will have a more sophisticated look and hopefully look back at your younger years with a smile. To this day, I still thank some of the elder Goths who knew me back then. Some of them took me under their bat wings and steered me in the right direction. It doesn't mean you should take everything any elder goths says to you to heart, whether it is mean or not, sometimes, it is helpful to take criticism as positive criticism. I know I did and I stopped looking like a mime!

 I hope this post made you laugh. I sure had fun writing it!

Sadly, I do not have any photos of my younger years available but when I originally shared this post in my old blog, I was so happy to share these ones! I am more than happy to put these up, once again as compensation, oh well, we don't always get what we want dear readers!

Friday, 21 July 2017

Product review: Kat Von D lipstick

 I decided to do a product review on Kat Von D's lipstick because I really do wonder how I lived my life without it! I never really bought any Kat Von D products in the past. I used to be a cheap makeup sort of girl until recently, I decided to splurge a little more on myself. I work hard, I deserve some pampering too! I am familiar with Kat Von D as a tattoo artist and am very fond of her artwork. She does such gorgeous tattoos! This is what peaked my interest in her products.

The most important feature, the lipstick itself is amazing. It really does last for a long time. Normally, I do not fall for marketing strategies but this is a huge exception. The packaging and tube itself are very aesthetically pleasing! I also love the names of her lipsticks. Seriously, there is one called Bauhaus! I bought a red shade called Vampira! Now, how cool is that? I was totally sold!  In fact, the little added touches is what really makes this product awesome.

One of my goals for this year was to buy better quality makeup and I do not regret this purchase one bit. I am already planning on buying a few more articles in the future!

Kat Von D, you rock!

Wednesday, 19 July 2017

One year later...

For those who followed my old blog, there is a high chance you read about my lifestyle change I made a year ago. In fact, it was a year ago today!

I never thought making a lifestyle change would bring out so much positive in my life! Not only do I look at food in a different way, I took better control of my health and well being! On top of all that, my sense of self worth has increased and the icing on the cake, I went down six sizes! I lost close to 40 pounds. I would like to lose another 10-15 more pounds but that is just vanity weight, to be honest. I am happy with where I am and I do not plan on going back to my old bad habits.

What lit the fire under my ass to begin this crazy journey was a photo of me. I took one long look at it and thought "holy shit! I got fat!" I weighed myself and my worst fears were confirmed. I was always a very petite woman and seeing my weight was only confirmation that I needed to change things. I was living a very unhealthy lifestyle that consisted of minimal exercise and poor eating habits. As a parent,this concerned me. What kind of example was I setting?  I knew I had to do something and I did!

On the left is a photo of me, taken July 19, 2016 and next to it, is the photo of me in the same outfit taken today, July 19,2017

Weight loss

Monday, 17 July 2017

Back to the basics

I recently lost a lot of weight and my only pair of jeans no longer fit me. I really noticed this last spring when I put them on and I forgot to put a belt on; It was a good thing I was wearing a long coat because my pants were falling down. Not long after, the jeans were  donated to Goodwill. I think it is important to have some basic staples in any wardrobe, even a Goth one and jeans are one of them.

Jean shopping for me is a pain in the ass. I have an hour glass figure and I can never find pants that fit me! I decided to tackle this challenge over the weekend when I hit The Mall (sigh, I hate going to any shopping mall) with my niece, Lori. I felt like The Mall was the best place to go since I can have easy access to a variety of stores all in one area. I was positive I will be going through many in search for the perfect pair. Obviously, I wasn't going to settle for any other color than black! My niece, Lori agreed to keep me company and I was happy she accepted my invitation because she is my cheerleader. Shopping with Lori is always fun.For instance, there was this one time when I got a huge framed picture of a Dalek. She had no problem helping me haul that photo through the shopping mall while shouting "exterminate" with me!

So Lori and I went jean shopping. She watched and I shopped. This is the first time I bought clothing in a year due to a self imposed shopping ban. I spent a year trying to lose weight and I was shocked to see that I am now literally half the woman I used to be. I went from a size 12 to a size 6! I also treated myself to Sephora because going down six sizes is something to be celebrated and what better way to celebrate by buying fancy makeup?  It was also one of my goals for this year to buy better quality makeup. Want to see the makeup I got? You will find out on Friday! For now, here I am wearing my new jeans! P.S. I didn't time to hem them so I am wearing heels because my pants are too long! Hehe!!!

Friday, 14 July 2017

The Trouble With Tribbles

* Taken from old blog but edited to better reflect my sarcasm*

For those not familiar with Tribbles (are there really people out there not familiar with these cute fuzzy little creatures?)  they are shaped like a furry tennis ball and they make these cute little sounds that resemble a high pitched purr. Tribbles were featured in a Star Trek episode from the original series. In this episode, one of these little creatures got sold to Lieutenant Uhura and it made it's way onboard the Enterprise. It then begins to multiply and multiply and multiply... to the point, they are EVERYWHERE. You open a closet door, hundreds of them fall out. I often call the more mundane people Tribbles. You see, like what many of us refer to as Normies, I like to call these people Tribbles because they all look the same, they don't really do anything except multiply! Perhaps it is a little mean on my end to see things that way but that is just my sense of humour.

I am sure we all experienced it. There is always someone. Be it a family member, an acquaintance, co-worker or neighbor, there is usually ALWAYS someone there that looks down on you due to your lifestyle choices. This would be understandable if I were to be a murderer, drug user, or doing anything illegal but I am not. I am being looked down on because of the way I dress. That I openly admit that I am part of the goth subculture. I look weird. I am a "freak" and "not normal". I am not as good as they are because of the choices I make over MY OWN PERSONAL APPEARANCE.

Some people are more blatantly obvious than others with their remarks, some people will call you a silly nickname in guise of only joking. Don't get me wrong, I have a sense of humour and can take a joke. I make fun of myself all the time!  You know these people are showing you their sense of disapproval, you can tell by their not-so-subtle yet "only joking" remarks. You know they are totally serious, you know they are insulting you but the moment you confront them for being an ass, they gaslight you and play victim. They do this by telling you that you are being overly sensitive or you are doing it for attention; You can't take a joke and my all time favorites are: "it was all a misunderstanding" or "it would be easier if you dressed like everyone else then you wouldn't have to go through this." I ignore these people but like a bad rash, they keep coming back. They are like Tribbles!

Souce:google images, Star Trek, The Trouble With Tribbles

These are usually pretty vanilla people. They couldn't conceive a creative thought even if creativity were to whip it's dick out and smack them across the face! This is probably why they like to rag on you.

What really rots my socks is when these said people criticize you for doing a certain thing. It could be trivial like giving your kid a mohawk, getting a piercing, tattoo or dying your hair a certain color because it is not within the mainstream. They do this to your face and behind your back. It becomes a "thing" even though it is none of their business anyway. The next thing you know, they are doing the same god damn thing as you because some celebrity did it or it is the new fashion trend and they just have to fit in. It annoys me. Mainstream fashion will take something from a subculture, make it trendy and people like these eat it up although they originally criticized you for doing the same thing in the first place! The only difference, they criticized you because you did it before it became trendy. You weren't following the norm.

 I know I shouldn't let it get to me. I should feel privileged and so forth but I don't. It annoys the crap out of me. I don't follow the latest fashion trends, I wear what I like! I do sometimes get clothing in mainstream stores but that is just because whatever is the "in thing" at that time coincides with the clothing I personally like to wear.  Hell, I even buy brand name alternative clothing items. I can't always say that I am "oh so original" yet I express myself with things I like, not to follow what everyone is wearing, even if it is within the subculture.

Speaking of our subculture, some of us do it to each other too. I have heard many times; If you don't like a certain band among the other "proper goth bands"or you wear a certain piece of clothing, you are a poseur! Really? So as a subculture based off of self-expression, if you don't do XYZ and put yourself in a little box, you aren't really goth? Mmmkkay there! I think there are certain aspects that make someone goth (music, literature, clothing, etc) to a certain extent there should be some loose guidelines BUT we shouldn't be so anal about it either.

On a more pleasant side, at least I know that I and all those like me, who dances to the beat of their own drum ,will always have a special place in society. We are often known to be innovators and creative geniuses because we tend to not follow the herd. Tribbles... Note the snarkiness and sarcasm at the genius remark...OK OK...we ALL  know I am a creative genius! So there!
When you go out and you see the mainstream trying to imitate us AGAIN...just think of the Tribbles and don't worry, next week, there will be a new trend and at least you have the knowledge that you were doing it before the Tribbles took over! Besides, when the certain item is no longer is considered "in" just think about all the bargains you can get and have some cool items to add to your wardrobe.

Wednesday, 12 July 2017

Dressing goth in the workplace

**Taken from my old blog***

I know... I know... I know.. funny enough, after starting this new blog and after getting on my proverbial soapbox about no longer being a corp goth because I think I dress too goth for a more corporate setting, here I am writing about dressing goth for work. This is the second post I ever did in my old blog and I really like the advice I gave and wanted to edit it to reflect to where I am today. You see, I am STILL working at the same place! I took this advice and it worked out well for me!

 I know depending on the industry you work for, some clothing/jewelry/body mods are more acceptable than others. For instance, when I worked in a more corporate environment, pin-striped suits were my best friend and anything that was not typical office wear was frowned upon. I understand A LOT of the things I wear at my current office would have sent me packing in previous jobs but there are some essential little rules I have acquired over the years:

Know, and never cross, the boundaries of tolerance in appearance for your specific profession. I noticed, depending on the industry, some offices are more lenient than others. I work in fashion so I can get away a little more than previous jobs. On the other hand, there are certain articles of clothing I do own that are best to be kept outside of the workplace. Usually these items can be categorized as fetish/club gear anyway.
In the beginning, once I got myself established at this job, if ever I doubted whether or not something was acceptable, I had a chat with my boss or with HR. When I was planning on getting my facial piercing, I checked-in to make sure it was OK.

Wean them in - establish mutual respect and then slowly show your true colors (or in this case lack of colors!)  When I first started working for my current employer, I was "normal".  I like to say that it was a phase I was going through at the time. I foolishly felt like since I was a first-time mom, I had to dress for the part. I was also getting out of a weird funk I was in. Those closest to me used to play "spot the goth undertones" because as much as I denied it, the real me was still there.

This all changed gradually and although my boss said I could wear whatever I wanted - within reason, I did not immediately prance into work all decked out. I worked my way into it. Yes, sometimes shocking the more conservative people can be amusing but we don't want to do this in an office! I took my time, built my confidence up at work. Another trick is to balance out with the more gothic looking outfits with the more conservative looking ones. One day, I wear the skirt with the D-rings and the next day, a very smart looking pair of black jeans and a plain t-shirt.

Personally, I never cared whether or not I got acceptance from anyone; be it the mainstream or other Goths. The only reason why I did this was because, well, I have bills to pay! I take pride in being able to contribute to my family's income! I would also like to chime in by stating that I am STILL working at the same job. The new people seem to like being greeted by me and find me very friendly. In fact, someone told me they remembered how nice I was on their first day several years ago! In addition, my attitude played a huge part in this. In the beginning, my spider web stockings and Siouxsie shirt was frowned upon...I wear them often now! This leads to....

Dress in a manner that is comfortable for your coworkers (within reason). Compromise enough to establish a good working relationship with your coworkers. Today, co-workers cannot imagine me wearing the things I used to or even looking the way I did when I first started and I am occasionally complimented for some of the things I currently wear. This acceptance hasn't always come easy and I coped with it by networking. When interacting with my colleagues, I am always professional, polite, and courteous. It doesn't mean you should spend personal time with them (unless you want to) or let them take advantage of you being nice and helpful, or even make fun of you for what you wear. I like to think that it speaks volumes when you can come to work and establish yourself as a valuable key player within the company. Make it so they see YOU, see how smart and capable you are. In the end, the clothes won't be noticed so much but your personality, your ability to get the job done well is what stands out. It does take a lot of work but in the end, if you cannot have a professional rapport with your co-workers, this could massively backfire on you. If you think about it, you should be doing this anyway in any job, dress code or not.

 I also noticed that by relating to people, even in a small way, helps. I am fortunate, there are tons of young parents at my company and I can relate to them by "parent talk". If that fails, I ask them questions about themselves, I talk about the weather or if I find out they have pets, I talk about those! Show them that you are human and they can relate to you in some small level. It is funny how some people can perceive others. Sometimes, non-goth people want to talk to us. They are curious and don't know how to approach us. Make yourself approachable. Yes, even if they ask you the same age old questions and make the same age old remarks. We all know them all but they don't. Be patient. I know it is easier said than done, believe me! Trust me, the "you look like Abby from NCIS" comment does get old but to them, it isn't, plus, it is a huge ass compliment!

Here are some of my favourite work outfits I have worn over the years:


Tuesday, 11 July 2017

Intro post

By now, most of you most probably have read my "About & Content" section or  found the post in my old blog, and learned that I started a new one.

 I wanted to start new and fresh because I outgrew the old blog. I want a blog less centered around my family life. It is not because my family isn't important to me. My son is getting older and his own personality is starting to come out. I much rather let him explore who he is without the public to see. That doesn't mean you won't hear about him anymore but any posts involving him will be written at his request and any photos with him appearing in them will be posted with his consent.

With all these changes, I wanted more of a Goth lifestyle/fashion blog. I want to write about the subculture and my personal experiences within it. I want to do videos and since I lost a lot of weight, I want to show off all the new clothing I will be getting!  It's time to start fresh and I am so inspired. You are all in for a treat!

There are posts in the old blog that I am very fond of, especially the earlier ones when I didn't have the readership I have today. I will be resurrecting those here. Come back tomorrow where I will be digging up some of my previous ones. In fact, I am going to revert back to my old blogging schedule. Expect a post every Monday, Wednesday, and occasionally Friday. Don't fret, there will obviously be new content as well!

I am really looking forward to this and I hope you enjoy it as much as I will!


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