Monday, 6 November 2017

A what is going on in my life post

I thought I would give you all an update on my personal life because I wrote about having anxiety and I am pretty sure that most of you probably know by now that my doctor put me on medical leave from my job because of it. I was having panic attacks and needed time to rest and get my affairs in order. After spending almost 6 weeks on medical leave, my husband and I decided that it would be best for us as a family that I stay home for a while. That's right, I am stay at home Mom now! I quit my job! It wasn't an easy decision but sometimes, in life, the hardest decisions are the best ones.  For the record, I know I can write about this openly as some coworkers contacted me to keep in touch.

My son Philip has benefited immensely from this so far. Jay can relax a little more on the weekends because we are not running around doing cleaning/laundry/groceries and everything else.This means more quality family time. This means more time with Philip after school vs playing beat the clock to get homework and supper ready on time. I don't want to go into specifics with my son but his last two years at school were not easy, me being at home plays a huge part towards helping him.

Staying at home not only means doing house cleaning, it means being available should the school call because Philip is sick. It means no longer having to debate who's turn it is or who's available to go get him. You have no idea the numerous times I felt guilty because I was unable to leave my work or take a personal day to take care of Philip. Jay is great with him but a sick child doesn't always want their dad, a sick child wants their mom. It was my case with Philip and that really hurt me that I wasn't able to be there for him.

Staying at home also means learning new things. For example: I always wanted to learn how to cook pumpkin and very recently, I did just that! I have also been making more meals from scratch, including homemade chicken stock and soup! Staying at home means getting my produce from the vegetable stand/farmer's market (because I have time!) and no longer from the grocery store! Not only was I able to save money on the food budget by shopping this way, we are eating better. Despite having severely cut down on takeout/restaurants last year in order to reach my weight loss goals, we very rarely eat out anymore. Staying at home also means less already prepared, pre-packaged food that you throw in the oven. I have more time to cook and this has also helped with our food budget. We still splurge on frozen pizza (even order in at times) and chicken nuggets but it is less often than we used to.

Speaking of finances, things are going to be tight for a while but since we don't have a mortgage, we will be moving to a smaller place (re:less rent) over the summer. We planned on moving anyways. Once I calculated costs associated with me being a working parent, for example, child care services for when he is out of school. eating at a restaurant or ordering in, and various other expenses, the loss of income wasn't as much as I originally thought it would be. It just makes more sense for me to stay home!

By speaking with other moms, I realized that many of us, myself included, put so much pressure on ourselves to be all and do all but we sometimes can't do that. This was a great lesson for me and I am so lucky that I have the luxury to be a stay at home mom now. It was a very humbling experience because it means being financially reliant on my husband, something I am not used to. I also took pride in being able to work and I had to re-evaluate my priorities. Whether you are a stay at home mom or working mom both has it's pros and cons but for my family dynamics, my personal mental health issues and especially with having a child with special needs, at this moment, being a stay at home mom is what's best for us.


  1. Yay for silver linings! :) I'm glad being an at-home mom is going to work out for you.

  2. That's great Sylvie. Enjoy every minute you have at home with him! It goes by fast! I stayed at home when my son was little. I just had a little part time job during the day when he was at school. Those were great years and your son will love it. :)

  3. Sounds like this is the right decision for you and your family right at the moment! Wishing you all the best! Stress and overwork are killers.

  4. All those home cooked meals can definitely help lift spirits :D
    I'm happy to hear that things are looking up for you and your family!

  5. Sounds great! Looks like the lifestyle change put you in a better mood :) Maybe you'll start sharing recipes and household stuff?

  6. Last year I was not working, it was the best experiance of my life. Obviously, its we had to cut back as well as having a mortage.

    I alot of home cooking and taught myself jam making. I highly recomend learning jam making its so yummy and alot cheaper than store bought stuff.Sometimes money not everything its about finding that life and work balance. I hope all the best for you and yiur.

  7. Health and mental health are important. That's great you have an opportunity to go on this path.

  8. I wish you all the luck! Being a Mom is a hard job in itself, so I hope this will give you the opportunity to concentrate on you and your family's health and happiness! Feel free to share some tasty recipes! ;)

  9. Good for you! Sounds like you made the right decision for you and your family. :)



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